Male Discipline and Authority:
Spanking and Punishment in the Home
Bratty kids can be a real big problem. Any man who has a "brat" in his home knows exactly what I am talking about. Unfortunately, in today's mixed up world, male discipline, spanking, punishment, and male authority as a whole are strongly looked down upon by this "modern society" of ours. Compounding such a problem, many men have been "castrated", (figuratively), by a rebellious wife. Perhaps, therefore, your greater problem at home can be illustrated by the following picture:
"Listen you: I wear the pants in this house!"
It is no coincidence that you might indeed be forced to deal with both of these two faces under one roof! A rebellious wife generally produces a rebellious child. (As they say, "Like mother, like daughter.") If your children see your wife acting in defiance and open rebellion against your authority, don't be too surprised if your children want to rebel against you as well.
Spanking is a good option for dealing with a child who has become a rebellious "brat". Still, it is better to start such spanking much earlier, before such a child makes your life really miserable. Now, I realize that the world always tries to cram down your throat the lie that "spanking is evil". Nevertheless, this really is a very, very big lie. This is a lie, because spanking is actually good for your child, not bad. Not spanking your kid is actually what helps to produce and encourage this brat-like behavior in your child.
Now, I realize that spanking will not help you to deal with your rebellious wife. Spanking is rightly considered by our society to be an "inappropriate" form of discipline for your wife -- since spanking your wife would be considered to be "wife beating". Nevertheless, if you are stuck with a "shrew" for a wife, then may God help you. You still might be able to raise a child who can learn to behave. Still, this will be quite difficult to do so if your wife keeps teaching your children to rebel against you by her own rebellion against you and your authority in the home.
Spanking as a form of male discipline for your children is a very good form of punishment. In fact, there is really nothing that can take the place of corporal punishment in the home. Spanking is not evil. It does not permanently harm the child. Instead, spanking can permanently help your child. This is the exact opposite of what "Dr. Spock" and other such liars said to your parents way back in the 1940's and 1950's. If a child gets permanently harmed by spanking, then that is not spanking -- that is violence in the home. That is child abuse. I am not by any means condoning child abuse or neglect in your home.
Despite what modern society might say to the contrary, spanking should always be started early, before the child is even able to talk. If you wait until your child is "old enough", then you will be acting very foolishly. If you make the mistake of waiting until a child is "old enough", then you will probably end up with a brat on your hands. The Bible says:
"The wicked are estranged from the womb: they go astray as soon as they be born, speaking lies." (Psalms 58:3)
"Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying." (Proverbs 19:18)
"Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." (Proverbs 22:15)
Sure, your children will cry if you spank them. In fact, such children will probably "cry bloody murder" in a loud and violent temper tantrum upon your first attempt at spanking them. (Their faces will probably "morph" into something similar to the first photo above when you try to spank them for the first time.) Your child will not want to be spanked. But then again, this is quite understandable. After all, who really wants to undergo pain? Who wants to be told that they are wrong?
Nevertheless, if you really want to help your child, then you must spank your child. You must spank your child even if he or she screams "bloody murder", in a bratty temper tantrum, (which most likely will happen, by the way.) Still, not spanking your child is evil, not good. This is because children cannot effectively learn self control apart from spanking. Without self control, how will such a child learn to function properly in this modern society? No, instead, such a child will probably go to school and then go off into sex, drugs, and maybe even to prison. Such an un-spanked child will probably have a short and/or miserable life and will probably cause a great deal of trouble for others as well. If you really love your child, then you must spank your child when it is needful. It is just that simple.
This advice to you about spanking is probably very different from what this Christ-rejecting, Hell-bound society has taught you. Those around you in this wicked society will almost always try to stop you from spanking your child. Despite what they might say to the contrary, your friends really don't want you to love your child by learning to discipline your child through spanking. Strange as it may seem, most of your friends would rather your children not be spanked, even if it means your child will probably end up living a miserable, sinful life, and then go to a miserable Hell when your child later dies.
Even your own "Spocked" parents, (who may have even spanked you occasionally against Dr. Spock's instructions), will probably not agree that you should spank your child or children. This is because many of your parents have bought the lie that Dr. Spock put out or have been "psychologized" out of old-fashioned discipline methods by the likes of Oprah and Dr. Phil (whom they often watch with rapt attention).
If you think that I am exaggerating about this claim about your friends and family, then just see what would happen if you should dare to tell your friends about your interest in starting to spank your children. Your friends' faces will probably quickly morph into a resemblance of the second photo above, if not the first! [As an aside, that is not my daughter, nor is the second photo my wife. Thank God!]
Such "friends" of yours who hate male discipline will strongly oppose the disciplining of your children through spanking. (They might even threaten to accuse you of "child abuse" or maybe even threaten to have your children taken away from you -- all of this to try and scare you into not helping your children by spanking them.) With friends such as these, who needs enemies?
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How to Properly Spank or Punish Your Children
(1) Marry a Wife who is in Agreement with Spanking Children
If you marry a "shrew", then you will have a "real problem" in your home, both with such a rebellious wife, and then later on with the rebellious children which she will give you. If you already have such a rebellious wife, then you will have a very difficult time in trying to properly spank your children. This is because your wife will want to "wear the pants" in your home, (i.e. be rebellious), and then try to stop you from helping your children by spanking them.
(2) Start Early
Start within a few days of birth at the very latest. Your child is wicked at birth. To wait until later means that you will probably raise a brat for a child. Nevertheless, use some wisdom. A newborn is very small and fragile. Therefore use your finger to tap lightly on the baby. Keep doing it until the baby stops it bad behavior. The baby will not like it. In fact, the baby might well scream at the top of its lungs as you continue to tap lightly. This is called a temper tantrum. (Even newborns have them!) You will learn this if you become a parent. Your baby will learn right at the start that bad behavior will be punished by spanking. (In this case use the spanking of the light tap of your finger against the baby's thigh.) Nevertheless, it is a war of wills - and your newborn intends to win this war against your male authority. Don't let your baby win!
(3) Spank in Private
Take your child into a bedroom or into a room away from family members. Shut the windows and doors. Draw the curtain or shut the blinds. Perhaps turn on the radio to some decent music. Turn up the volume loud enough to drown out the fake cries of "bloody murder" from your child. Then proceed to spank your child.
(4) Try to Get Your Child to Tell You Why He or She Will be Getting a Spanking
This is generally quite beneficial. Do this right before you spank your child. The child must know why he or she is going to be spanked. Otherwise, the spanking might lose some of its effectiveness. Getting your child to tell you the exact reason for the spanking is also a form of "confession" to the "crime" committed by your child. This will help to reinforce in his or her mind exactly why the spanking is being given and also help your child emotionally as well.
(5) Spank your Child until He or She "Gives In" to You
If you quit too early, before you have "won" the battle, then by definition, you have "lost" the battle. This is because your child's wicked will has not yet been broken. If you quit before your child's will has been broken, then such a child will tend over time to develop a "resistance" to punishment. He or she will learn to "tough it out". I do not mean that you should "break the spirit" of your child. Children are naturally resilient and spirited and that is as it should be. Nevertheless, you must break your child's will to be bad.
Another problem is that some children who have not had their wills broken by spanking; will later develop a "victim mentality". They will then claim that you and others in authority are "always being mean to them". (I call this the "spoiled brat syndrome".) If your children gain such a mindset, then they will never be able to fully function in today's society; since they will always regard proper correction by others as "persecution" or "victimization".
(6) Never Discipline in Anger
If you are angry, then "cool off" before you start spanking your child. Never spank when you are angry. If you try to spank your child while you are still angry, then your child will think that the spanking is because of your anger and not because of his or her own offense. You can therefore cause more harm than good if you spank in anger, because your child will not learn the spanking's lesson, and might also become bitter at you, thinking that you do not love him or her.
(7) Never Leave a Permanent Mark on your Child
Leaving a permanent mark on your children is counter-productive. Others will later see what you did and then will have you put in jail for committing "child abuse" against your children. Is this what you want? Therefore, make sure that you do not leave any permanent mark on your children. Leaving a permanent mark can harm your children physically, because of the mark on their bodies. It might also harm them emotionally as well, since having such a permanent mark might cause them to one day become bitter at you when they see it and remember that you "did that to me". Don't harm your children. Do spank your children. Spank your children hard enough and long enough to make them understand that what they did was really wrong and bad.
(8) Realize that your Child will probably "Test You in Phases"
If you start trying to spank a child that has never been spanked before, then get ready for a big struggle. One part of this struggle is that such children will not really believe that you will consistently punish them. They will "test you". Will you do what you say? Will you always do what you say, or only sometimes? Is this "spanking thing" just a "phase you are going through"? Your children will have such questions run through their minds and so will test you, to see if you will really do what you say you will do.
Not only will your children test you, but they will also probably test you in phases as well. Sometimes, they will be "nice and sweet". At other times they will be very stubborn and resist the effectiveness of the spanking. This tends to cycle in "phases", with children sometimes deciding to submit to your punishment and at other times resisting. Learn therefore to recognize when your child is going into one of these "phases".
When a child wants to be rebellious, then such a child will need to be figuratively "put on a short leash". (Don't actually place your child on a leash. Leashes are for dogs, not for children.) What is meant here, is that your child should be punished for even minor offenses when he or she has a very rebellious attitude. Remember though, "never, never, never give in". Do not become discouraged. Do your duty and spank your child for his or her own good. Sometimes your child will resist you more than at other times. Nevertheless, children generally react this way to discipline - in cycles of rebellion and submission.
(9) Don't Spank Your Children Right Before You Take Your Child to a Doctor, Nurse, or Even a Close Relative's Home
Remember, today's society often calls good evil and evil good. This can be clearly seen in how so many doctors are now being ordered to "report" spanking, as if spanking were some kind of "child abuse". This "reporting" problem is of course a very evil thing, since normal, old fashioned spanking is certainly not "child abuse". Nevertheless, if your doctor is indeed under such an evil governmental requirement, (which, in fact he or she probably is), then be wise and wait until after a doctor's visit to spank your child if such a doctor's visit is expected. Otherwise, some wicked person might try to have your child taken away from you and even try to put you in jail, just because your child's bottom is still a little red. Remember, you are trying to help your child through spanking. Therefore, be wise, help your child, and stay out of jail.
In the same manner, be wise about trusting your relatives. Some of your relatives will probably hate spanking and may well try to put you into jail as a "child abuser" for any temporary spanking mark on your child's behind which they might see. "Never assume!" Be wise. Trust only those who you already know would never commit such a sin of trying to put you in jail for the simple and loving act of spanking your child.
(10) Keep Your Promise to Discipline
If you tell your child that he or she will be spanked for doing a certain thing that is wrong, (for instance, lying to you), then by all means keep your word and spank your child for doing it. Weakness will not be correctly interpreted by your child. Instead he or she will think, "Look at what I just got away with!" Your child will learn to not respect your male authority. You will probably also have a more difficult time the next time when you try to spank your child. This is because your child will question your resolve, and will therefore resist the effectiveness of your spanking.
(11) Be Consistent
If your child deserves a spanking, then give him or her what is owed. Don't spank one time and then not spank the next time for committing the same offense. Otherwise, your child will think that he or she can sometimes "get away with it". Such thinking by your child would make your spanking less effective.
(12) Use Other Methods of Discipline as Appropriate to Reinforce Spanking
There are other methods of discipline that you might want to use as well as spanking. These methods might include: restrictions, rewards for good behavior, lack of positive rewards for bad behavior, and so on. Be creative. The use of both positive and negative reinforcement of spanking can often help.
These methods of positive and negative reinforcement can be especially effective during your child's periods of "resistance" to your spanking. This use of such rewards and punishments is called "the carrot and the stick". If you use both positive and negative reinforcement of your spanking during times of greatest resistance by your child, you will probably spend less effort and get better results.
(13) Generally Give your Children a Hug after Spanking Them, Telling Them that You Love Them
There are exceptions to this rule. Nevertheless, in almost all cases you should give your children a hug after spanking them. Give them a kiss and tell them that you love them. Please do not limit such love and affection to those times right after a spanking. Otherwise, your children might decide to do something bad, just to get you to hug and kiss them and tell them that you love them. They may consider the spanking to be just a part of the "process" of getting your attention and affection. Certainly, this is not really what you want. Nevertheless, it is important for you to show your children that you love them after spanking them, so that they will not get bitter at you or become overly discouraged.
(14) Keep your Kids Away From the "Bad Kids"
There is an old saying that, "One bad apple spoils the bunch." This can be true about your child. Bad kids will try to persuade your child to be as bad as they are. This is their character. After all, bad kids are indeed, "bad". Don't let them ruin your child! Keep your child away from the bad influence and examples of such peers and you will avoid much of the negative peer pressure problems faced today by so many children.
(15) Don't Let Your Child Watch Television
TV often has "rebellion against authority" as its number one theme. Watching television also has other problems as well. Just look at those so-called "children's programs". Some are violent. Some give evil lessons, teaching your child how to be bad. Some are even produced by homosexuals or other sexual perverts. Would you knowingly let a sex pervert "baby-sit" your child? Watching TV is therefore "pure poison" for your child. And those daytime soup operas are pure poison as well. Don't let your child drink television's poison!
(16) Consider Becoming a Christian
If you get right with God, it will become much easier for you to then "get your house in order" as well. If you become a Christian, it will also be easier to raise your child correctly. It will be easier to persuade your child to become a Christian if you are also a Christian. Besides, getting your sins forgiven is the most important thing in your entire life, even more important than properly raising your children.
(17) Help Your Children to Become Christians
If your child becomes a Christian, then he or she will usually behave better naturally, which is good. Such a child will also go to Heaven when he or she dies, which is very good. If your child is not going to Church, then take the time to find a Bible-believing Independent Fundamental Baptist church to attend. Send your children to Church each week, or even better, why not go with them to a Fundamentalist Baptist church yourself? Let them go to Sunday School or Junior church on Sunday and also take them to Vacation Bible School during the summer if it is provided.
(18) Pray for Your Kids
Why not ask God to help you to properly raise your children? God can help you and God wants to help you as well. The way to ask God to help you is to pray to Him to help you. God will answer your prayers and will help you to raise your kids right if you ask Him. God wants you to be a good parent, and He will help give you the wisdom to properly raise your children.
Conclusion
There are many other points to consider concerning the proper disciplining of your children. Nevertheless, spanking should become a central part of your "battle plan" for regaining control (and peace) within your home. Dr. Spock ruined a whole generation with his lies, by telling people to stop spanking their children. The rebellious "ruined" Hippie Generation, (those born during the 1940's and 1950's), came about as the direct result of so many parents following Dr. Spock's lies concerning child rearing.
Such self-centered, ruined hippies from the 1940's and 1050's are often proud and think only of themselves and so cannot stand the thought of someone disagreeing with them. (With such hippies it is often their way or the highway.) Is this how you want your own children to behave, like an old hippie? Therefore, be different from the crowd. Be right instead of wrong. Raise your kids right as well. Spank your kids when they need it!
[How To Find True Peace]
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